Native fluency and the interview
I’ve never been called a spinner before
I write. I enjoy writing. No, this is not me returning to teaching English. In fact, I am walking a fine line writing this blog… In fact, I am usually considered a bit too forward and an optimist. I am not an optimist, I am a pessimist, always prepare for the worst allowing me to find setbacks entertaining. Still, when the setback is that I am called something unexpected in an interview, I can't laugh.
So, I have never thought of myself as a "spinner." Is it a good quality? Is it a bad quality? I will tell you how I handled unexpected comments and questions while interviewing.
Let it pass without comment. I ignored it and let me tell you why. Communication is a complex beast of a process and expats really have the worst end of it. When a non-Native speaker says something, no matter how fluent, their assumptions concerning meaning have evolved from where, who, and how they learned the language. This is true for all speakers. However, non-Native speakers often consider these assumptions as learned, and hence, absolutely confirmed statements.
This means, non-Native speakers can be unaware of positive or negative implications these words or comments take in other situations. These are the underlying, sub-meanings, of which native speakers normally are aware and cautious.
As a response to these situations, I feel the best thing you can do in interviews and intercultural communication, is question your feelings. They arise from expectations, really prejudice, which are either met or unmet. When expectations are met, things are rosey. When not, emotional tides run red! Stop the flow by asking where a twinge came from. Don’t "hide" these under a best face, rather, internally question why a best face is being challenged by being called something like a "spinner," "code-monkey," or "hack."
The circle is between emotions and expectations, imagine emotions as a dam on a river (communication) and expectations as the lever that raises or lowers the dam. Use rational thought to prevent you from falling into the routine shutting down communication in response to your emotions.